There are many different types of abuse. While the more common forms include domestic violence, child abuse and emotional abuse, any behaviour towards someone that causes deliberate harm or upset can be considered abuse.
– Patrick Stewart, Actor
Physical abuse is causing intentional harm or injury to another person through violence or physical contact. Anyone can be affected by physical abuse. The abuser can be any person from within the victim’s environment including family members, partners or friends. Physical abuse can include, but is not limited to:
– Angelina Jolie, Actress, Filmmaker, Humanitarian
If you can answer yes to any of the above questions, then you may be in an abusive relationship or if you do these things you may be acting abusively.
There are often problems with taking responsibility for abusive behaviour. Often the victim will assume blame and the abuser may adopt a “poor me” stance.
My approach will be different with each client involved in domestic abuse/violence, as I tailor each session to your unique experiences. Often domestic abuse/violence is something that is witnessed— for instance, a child or someone else in the home who saw the abuse occur. Survivors may be out of their abusive relationship but still experiencing lingering effects of trauma, such as nightmares or flashbacks.
You may not even recognise that you are in an abusive relationship because that type of relationship may be “normal” for you. You might assume that the term abuse should be applied only if a spouse or intimate partner has hurt you physically. Normalising, accepting, denial, keeping the peace, blaming yourself, using drugs or alcohol are all methods people use as coping strategies when abused. I will gently work with you at your own pace in recognising psychological, verbal or other non-physical forms of abuse.